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Raj returned home and quickly inquired about it.."Hey, what happened? Driver told me that Myra cried".
His wife Meera said, "Aha! Nothing to worry Raj. She is fine". Raj took his daughter in his lap and asked, " What you mean by nothing Meera? Why did she cry so much in the first place?"
Meera looked at Raj and said, "She was perfectly fine till we were in hospital, but". "But?" Raj interrupted impatiently.
Meera looked at her daughter and said, "The moment when the doctor gave me an injection, I shouted and she started hitting the doctor and started crying".
Raj heard those words and asked, "Oh! She might have got afraid of that injection". Meera corrected him, by saying, "No Raj, she cried because I cried".
That moment Raj looked at his daughter and kissed her on the cheek. Because, Without saying a word, his daughter expressed her love for her mother.
Kids may not think differently, but they certainly think innocently.
As a parent, it's heart-wrenching to see your child fall into the trap of negative thinking. It's challenging to develop a positive attitude in your child.
Some children wallow in feelings like self-doubt, sadness, anger and unhappiness. Unfortunately, science says that it's natural for people to move on negative thoughts than on positive thoughts, more so in children.
Today's children/students face many challenges in their school life. Students go through shame, body shaming, bullying, doubt, and fear, which in turn, produces stress chemicals in the brain.
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Because of these things, children may go into a shell or become introverted. But all is not lost!
Parents and teachers have to work towards developing their child/children into positive thinkers.
There is plenty that can be done to help your child develop a more positive attitude and an optimistic approach towards life. You can instil in them confidence, internal motivation, and a can-do attitude.
Are negative thoughts bad?
Actually, there are no "bad" emotions. Positive and negative emotions play a vital role in a human's life. They are valuable in how one processes the world around them.
For example, sadness or unhappiness can help you find ways to find happiness and you will not be guilty or shame for your negative emotions.
Danish Psychologist Svend Brinkmann, explains that the pressure to think positive and be constantly cheerful has turned happiness into a duty and a burden.
Recent psychological research indicates that emotional avoidance is one of the main causes of many psychological issues.
So, instead of pressurizing children to avoid or dismiss negative emotions, tackle them hands-on.
What should you do instead?
Teaching children how to deal with negative emotions and turn them into healthy options is the correct way to instil a positive attitude.
According to Positive Psychology researcher, Barbara Fredrickson, positive thinking is important because it broadens your sense of possibility and opens up your mind, allowing you to build new skills, positive thinking, and building resilience and patience.
Neurobiologist Richard Davidson of the University of Wisconsin explains that the brain is "plastic" and can be trained to be more emotionally resilient and to respond to certain emotions in a healthier manner.
Ways to make your child a positive thinkers.
1. Be a positive role model.
Children always learn by example, so parents and teachers need to embody positive thinking.
You have to demonstrate a constructive attitude toward challenges and setbacks. Share your own stories of struggle and challenges and how boldly you overcame them.
You should highlight the importance of resilience, patience, optimism and a never-say-die attitude.
When children observe and witness positivity in their parents and teachers, they become fearless to face setbacks in life.
2. Promote self-compassion.
Parents and teachers have to mistakes children/students that making mistakes is part of life. If you do not make any mistakes then you will not learn anything.
Instil in them that elf-compassion is very important to stay motivated. Make them understand that no one is perfect.
It's very important to teach them that they are very important in their life and treat themselves with care, self-love, kindness, and forgiveness.
This will foster a positive attitude in them.
3. Set realistic goals.
While setting goals for your children, keep in mind to set achievable, measurable, and smart goals.
Break down large goals into small chunks. This will motivate them to accomplish more goals.
Do not forget to celebrate each win. This will reinforce the idea that their efforts are counted. This helps them in developing a sense of achievement and a positive outlook on their abilities.
4. Praise the efforts.
Focus on praising your child's every small win. Do not see only the accomplishment but behind that hard work should be appreciated. This will help them develop a growth mindset.
Every child wants to shine in his studies and works towards it. Parents and teachers should motivate and encourage every effort they make.
It boosts their morale and confidence.
5. Teach them to practice an attitude of gratitude.
A good culture and good behaviour start at home. Children should be moulded into a good human being.
Encourage your child/children to be grateful for the things they have and not crib about the things they do not have.
Teach them that complaining about things they do not have will bring unnecessary stress.
6. Encourage resilience.
Actually, this quality should be inculcated in children from a very young age. They should be taught that mistakes are part of life and they should not get dejected and feel rejected.
The most important aspect is facing the challenges of life without getting sad or unhappy and trying to bounce back.
Teach them that setbacks, failures and mistakes are opportunities for their growth. This will encourage them to be optimistic and positive.
7. Foster optimism.
A student's life is not easy but it is wonderful with beautiful memories. Teach them to reframe negative thoughts with positive ones.
Focusing on solutions instead of problems can relieve them from unwanted worries and tension. Encourage critical thinking and creative ways to solve their problems.
8. Create a positive environment.
Every child must grow up with positive people. Encourage them to be with people who encourage them to do better in every aspect of their lives.
Surround your child with positive influencers. Let them read books, media or social interactions.
9. Encourage positive self-talk.
Teach your child to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and constructive thoughts.
When faced with uncertainty and challenges, children have feelings of doubt and even negative self-talk. This is a very natural and obvious reaction.
In this situation, parents can instil developing a positive mindset and tell the benefits of positive self-talk. Positive self-talk can build resilience, push children to seek out things they are good at and provide courage to go after their dreams and goals.
They will identify their strengths and work on their weaknesses.
10. Be patient and supportive.
Any good thing takes time so be patient. There is no point in rushing things. Children may take time to learn things but as long as they have your support they will be encouraged.
Practising positive thinking in children may be a transformative process that nurtures their emotional well-being as well.
Conclusion.
Positive thinking brings stronger problem-solving and decision-making skills in children. By promoting positive thinking in children/students, parents and teahers can help them achieve their goals and develop a lifelong love for learning.
A positive attitude helps children relax, remember, focus, and absorb information as they learn. They welcome this new experience and recognize many different kinds of learning opportunities.
So, parents and teachers, slowly but surely instil a positive attitude in children/students to make them secure human beings.
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